The following article about single dads was written and posted by me on Divorced Girl Smiling right before Father’s Day of this year. I thought it was the perfect blog post to launch Divorced Guy Grinning, as it is a celebration of the courage, commitment and loyalty that I see in countless single dads I come across!
18 Things I Love About Single Dads by Jackie Pilossoph
I can’t speak from personal experience, but I have to believe that the life of a single dad is no picnic. Just as single moms do it, single dads have so much juggling in their lives.
If you think about it, they have to juggle work, kids’ activities, social life, working out, food shopping, other errands, family obligations and the alone time we all crave. It’s overwhelming!
Some single dads aren’t great parents. In fact, some are awful, as are some single moms. But I know countless single dads who are amazing men, thoughtful, loving fathers who give fatherhood their all.
So, in honor of Father’s Day, I’d like to celebrate single dads and thank them for all of their hard work and dedication to their children by posting:
“18 Things I love About Single Dads.”
1. Bed making at their house isn’t a high priority.
2. They actually GO INTO the pool and swim with their kids versus lying in a lawn chair catching rays.
3. They usually say yes to a request to go get ice cream.
4. They play dolls, house and dress up. They also bake cookies.
6. They come to baseball games in a suit, probably having dashed out of the office to catch as much of the game as they can.
7. They volunteer to be a coach for their son or daughter’s team.
8. They give great hugs.
9. They’re usually smiling (when I see them) and seem like they’re really enjoying being with their children.
10. Staying up late isn’t a big deal to them.
11. They’re fun! (sorry, moms, you’re fun, too, but they’re REALLY fun)
12. They act silly, but not in public places.
13. They tell funny jokes.
14. They can rattle off sports stats like no one else (which sporty kids love)
15. They usually pull out their cell phones and start taking pics of their kids when the opportunity arises.
16. They don’t scold kids if they forget to brush their teeth.
17. They’re more open to the opportunity of getting their kids a pet.
18. They have this look of pride on their face that clearly shows how much they love being a dad.
I know I’m generalizing. Not all single dads are like this. As I said before, I know plenty of single dads (and single moms) who are not good at being parents. There might be single moms reading this and cringing because their ex doesn’t do any of the 18 things. In fact, he might not even be in his kids’ lives. If that’s the case, I’m sad for the children and I’m sorry. But, all my 18 things are things I’ve seen in countless single dads I know. (and single moms, too.)
I’d like to address one more thing. If there is a lot of hostility and resentment in your divorce, it might be hard to acknowledge how hard your ex-husband is working to be the best single dad he can be. I’m recommending that this Father’s Day, get over it and wish your ex a Happy Father’s Day for the things he does for your kids.
In closing, I want to say that for me, being a mom is my most important role in life, and I think that there are millions of other single moms who feel that way. But, there are also millions of dads who feel the same way, and what I’m trying to say is that it shows. It really does.
Happy Father’s Day!